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#ifmywoundswerevisable you would see why I cut the people off that I have cut off and will not allow in my life.
A few years ago, I was completely unaware and uneducated about what it really means to be narcissistic. Come to find out, there are many people who used to be in my life who were to a T, narcissistic. Now I know so much about it all and I’m still learning about it. Educating yourself on this is key because the more you know, the more you will start to realize what people are doing is wrong and in no way your fault.
I have cut contact with the people who were like that. Honestly I will never allow them back in my life. I will live my life happy. Having toxic and narcissistic people in my life does me no good. I’ve been so happy without them.
I will not enable them by forgiving them over and over like I used to. There is no excuse because they know exactly what they are doing and it’s wrong. I don’t allow that kind of stuff in my life anymore. This is my life and I get to decide things like that.
I will not apologize for not allowing them back into my life. I will also not feel guilty for doing so. No one can change my mind on this. I will not be around them and I refuse to because when I get near them, I feel sick to my stomach.
Narcissistic people will never change the ways they live. They will never change the way they treat people. They will never care about all the chaos they have created. They do it on purpose.
Going no contact with the narcissistic people who were in my life, was the best choice I have made for myself in a long time. It’s been a rough road, everytime I have cut someone off. I always get through it. I have such a good support system that has helped me through everything for many years.
Yeah there’s always been some back lash when I cut people off. I have my opinion about it and others have theirs as well but as far as I’m concerned, if you keep treating someone bad and don’t stop doing so, I don’t care who the person is. Family or not I’m just not going to put up with it and that’s the end of it.
Going no contact and sticking with it, has been my saving grace. I deny invites when I know they will be there. I do not go where I know the narcissistic people may be. I don’t care at all to hear anything about them. I’ve blocked them on my 2 social media pages. Its awsome to write this blog because unless you know who I am, you would never be able to figure out who I am.
If you are being abused by a narcissist, you do not have to keep letting it happen. You do not have to just sit there and take it. No one should ever be treated the way narcissists treat people. No one can tell you that you have to keep forgiving it because you don’t. Make the choice to live for yourself and make your own decisions, don’t let gaslighting and flying monkeys control you.
You can go no contact with anyone, it doesn’t matter who they are. If someone keeps doing the same things to you over and over it’s not a mistake. Adults shouldn’t have to be told how to treat others and to play nice with people they treat like trash.
This is a very good website with lots of info and a glossary of different things that go along with narcissistic abuse. http://flyingmonkeysdenied.com
If you have ever delt with a narcissist, you know how screwed up they can really be and how good of a show they can put on for others to see. You would also know how fast others pick sides and treat the real victims when it comes to the narc.
No contact is one of the best things you can ever do when dealing with a narcissist. Some can’t go no contact because they have kids with a narcissist but thats where grey rock comes in.
I myself have always went no contact. I have no real reason to have any sort of contact (grey rock) with anyone who treats me bad and makes me out to be the crazy bad one (another one of their specialties).
Do what makes you happy, do what you have to do to be happy. Don’t let gaslighting flying monkeys guilt trip you for cutting someone off. Regardless of what others think you do what you need to do to not be treated like trash. Stand your ground. You got this❤